is to feel close to someone or something. In order to satisfy this need, you have a profoundly intuitive sense of the emotional nature of people and situations. The trouble for you is that your need for closeness is compulsive and so you can feel lonely or abandoned all too easily and then your intuitive sense becomes a radar that picks up anything which bears the slightest suggestion of abandonment or threat towards your vulnerable emotions.
The mistake you're making is that you are interpreting others' negative emotional states as being aimed specifically at you. It is then only a matter of time before such paranoid conduct does actually attract a negative attitude or act towards you. So you need to identify how and where in your past you initially felt betrayed or abandoned, and exorcise that demon. Until then you will either be haunted by a fear of being alone, or you will find yourself in solitary confinement.
Having overcome what must be the oldest human fear, that of abandonment - or at least, when you're not feeling threatened by it - you have an emotional perception of others that is accurate to the point of being deeply reassuring. At your best, you can make personal sacrifices for the good of the whole. |
